You know how when you showed up to class for a presentation, and you weren’t prepared; it was usually a big disaster. Some people were naturals at school and could pull off great marks without being prepared, but did you notice that even the not so natural kids, when they prepared really well, smoked even the most “natural” of people? It’s the same with dating. Here are 6 things that you must do before you step foot outside your door!
Do you see the bombshell on your left? That is the woman that is getting ready for you, and it’s up to you to make sure you make time to get ready for her. If you follow these 6 steps, you will be an extremely happy man at the end of the date.
- Learn as much as possible about the girl before the date
I’m not talking about stalking someone, that’s just freaky and dumb. What you do need to do is pick up on anything she’s talked to you about already. What was she warring when you asked her out? What kind of music does she like? What kind of friends does she hang out with? What are her favorite movies? Not only will you be extremely well prepared when you go on the date, but you will also be able to show her subconsciously that you pay attention, something every woman wants. - Go shopping and treat yourself to some nice clothes
Chances are that turtle neck your mom gave you is not going to get you any brownie points with the ladies. Get your image right! Using step one, you should have a pretty good idea of what she likes to see on men. Case and point, you don’t want to show up in a suit and tie to go on a date with a skater girl. However in the same vain you don’t want to show up in ripped jeans, and a hood top that says “SK8T 4 LIFE” on the back if your meeting a successful business woman. - Groom yourself for success
This should go without saying, but make sure you clean yourself up before the date! What does this mean? Shower, if possible take a bath, and then shower. It will get you extremely clean. Use some nice body lotion after your shower. Are you saying “You’ve got to be kidding me!”, well if you want to attract her with your sandpaper body, be my guest and don’t listen. Before you leave the bathroom, make sure you trim your nose hairs if you have any (you probably do, and they aren’t cute). I always recommend clean shaven, but if you aren’t, make sure you at least trim and keep it under control so you look like you have made effort. Oh ya and don’t forget, get a haircut! - Create a detailed game plan for the first 5 minutes
Trust me, the first 5 minutes of your date basically decide the entire course of your evening. Granted it can be salvaged with a lot of skill, but do yourself a favor and don’t put yourself in the hole in the first 5 minutes! No girl wants to get in your car (you better have a car, if you don’t, I’ll tell you how to get one in an hour later) and ask “So what are we doing?” and have you answer “I dunno, what do you wanna do?”. Date is over my friend, turn around, do her a favour, and take her home. Go rent a nice movie and buy some popcorn and start reading this blog all over again. Clearly you don’t deserve women in your life. Again based on what you know about her, make sure you incorporate things she likes into the date.Here is a small example. Let’s say she loves Starbucks and you met her at a Starbucks. A prefect start to the evening would be “Hey I was going to grab a coffee on the way here, but I thought we could just swing by Starbucks and grab one together, you like the Verona Latte right?”. Bang you are so in! I will go into more details in a later post entitled “Dominating the first 5 minutes of the date”. - Create a flexible game plan for the rest of the date
So now you have her attention and the rest of the date is upon you. Now what? It’s yours for the taking baby! But once again, make sure you have a plan. It depends on the woman your taking out but as an example, you could then say “I’ve made reservations at <TRENDY RESTAURANT> for 6:30pm, I love the <GREAT DISH SHE WILL ALSO LIKE>, have you tried it?”. At this point she might ask what you are doing after the date, or during the dinner. Make sure you have something ready to go. Sometimes it’s not a bad idea to have multiple things setup, and depending on how the dinner goes, you can change the “plan” accordingly. I would strongly suggest you stay away from the “Movie” thing, as movies tend to basically lose 2 hours from your short time with the woman you want to be with. The key to a successful first date will be shared later, but being at a movie blows your chances quickly. - Build your confidence levels in advance
All these rules are golden, but this one is possibly the most important one. Beautiful women love confident men. Correction. All women fall all over confident men. Who wants an indecisive, low self esteem guy that doesn’t believe in himself? Boost your confidence levels through the roof before you show up to the date. If you show up to the date thinking “I’m going to be confident” and you just aren’t in that mindset, you are so screwed. Get yourself into super confidence mode. Again I will share more details in a future post, but here are the basics.What are you really good at? Are you great at working out? Make sure you go to the gym and pump some serious iron before your date. Are you a great pianist or guitar player (yes guitar hero counts), then get on that instrument Johnny boy and wale away! Doing things you are great at, is really the only way to build up your confidence.
So there you have it. You now have a powerful set of tools to make sure your first date goes phenomenally well. You have learned to get prepared before the date by learning as much as possible about the beautiful woman. You know you have to go out and get a nice set of clothes, and give yourself a good bath. Finally you have learned that you need to create a fantastic plan, and execute that plan with complete confidence.